I'm going to get on my soapbox a little today.
I have decided that I am going to have a natural, physiological birth.
What that means for me is that I will not take any medicinal pain relief, and that there will be no medical intervention unless there are complications and either the baby or I are in danger.
Over the last few weeks I have encountered several people who when they hear what my birth choice is their responses include something along the lines of "sure, let me know how that goes for you," or "just wait until you get in there, you'll change your mind," or my personal favourite "just take the drugs!"
The funny thing about this debate, natural or with medical intervention, is that I get the sense that those who choose to birth with the use of medicine deeply want their choices to be respected and often feel like they are looked down on by those who choose the "natural" route.
I simply wish that my choice to birth naturally, with absolutely no medical pain relief, was treated with the same respect that the choice to have an epidural is treated with.
Our choice is not every one's choice. I know it will be painful, I know it will be hard. We have a wonderful midwife who is backing our decisions all the way. We also have a couple of friends who are pregnant and have made similar birth choices to us. The support amongst the three couples is quite strong and I am so grateful for that, as some of the negativity around our choice has even been from some of our church friends.
All parents need to make informed decisions, and like most parents we have made the one that we feel is in the best interests of our family. My husband and I have made a very well informed, well researched decision about this and we are extremely comfortable with our choice.
I'll respect your choice. I'd love it if people would respect ours too.
(climbing down from my soapbox now :))